First let me say thank you to those who weighed in on the 'when to have kids' debate. I'm glad to hear that others struggle(d) with the same issue. You all spoke exactly to my concerns. How can anyone feel prepared to create a human life and then be responsible for it? And saying my husband was all game for whatever was apparently a bit short sighted. A large part of me has always wanted him to be the one that said 'ok I'm as ready as I will ever be, lets do this'. I have wanted this because I never want him to claim he was an unwilling participant in this journey who wants off the train. You know? I had an experience sort of like that before and it didn't go so well for me. But I'm beginning to think it might be unreasonable to expect a man to ever say something like 'lets do this'. That is, unless they are the type of men who love babies and can't wait to have them (not my husband). I don't understand all these guys, and I know at least 5 off the top of my head, who say they want to be fathers but also say they don't really like kids and aren't so sure that they want them. And telling them that they might feel that way now but soon as you see them you will fall in love, well that's a pretty big leap of faith to ask him to take. 'Hey lets get pregnant and have a baby, and here's hoping you end up liking them'.
Anyway, I'm moving on before I say something I'll regret.
Last night we had our first couchsurfer. For those of you who are not familiar with couchsurfing its a free online community where you make a profile and then either request to sleep on people's couches or they request to sleep on yours. You stay at their house for free and there is no obligation on either part to stay there. If you get a weird feeling then don't sleep there. If you get a weird feeling about the person then don't let them sleep at your house. There is also a way to verify identities so that you know the person is who they say they are. On each profile people will report back about the person. If they are creepy or uncool then people will say something on their profile. The community holds everyone accountable and people will good reviews are pretty stellar.
We couchsurfed in Paris and it was fabulous. Our first couchsurfer last night, Brett Fisher,
was great! (Stole the pic from his couchsurfing profile). We talked most of the evening about random stuff, books, movies, music, Utah, and a lot about our religion. I forget sometimes that being a Mormon is super weird and/or interesting to a great deal of people. He asked us lots of questions about the doctrine of our church and about the culture as well. People have funny ideas about what Mormons are really like. Meeting two regular and down to earth people of our religion was a new experience for him. But he was very respectful and polite. We made him dinner and then had to leave for about an hour for a thing at church. When we got back he had put everything away and done all the dishes. What a sweet guy! He even brought us some fancy coffee. hehe. I didn't have the heart to tell him that we don't drink coffee so I just said thanks and will keep it for future guests.
He is a college student from Florida who is spending the summer living out 'Into the Wild' basically. He actually had just finished that book at our house on our porch while we were gone. Anyway, we had a great time and look forward to our next hosting experience.
Lastly, this is post #100. Cool huh? I am so flattered that people are interested in my little life and your comments seriously make my whole day! So thanks for everything and I love you all. Maybe when I get to post #1000 I'll post a nude picture of me or something. hahaha. Or something.
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